Forgive and Forget. No, Forgive and Reconcile
Imagine that time that someone wronged you at work. Although the person never apologized or even acknowledged his or her wrongdoing, you had to struggle through your feelings to the point where you were able to forgive. Of course, you couldn’t tell the offender that you forgave, because it would have been an insult to the person who won’t acknowledge the wrong.
Like almost every other Christian in the world you were taught to forgive and forget. You were able to manage the forgive part, but you haven’t forgotten. Mostly because the relationship is still broken. Somehow your forgiveness set you free, but it didn’t restore the brokenness. Why can’t you forget?
You can’t forget, because it really happened. And the idea that you should put it behind you refers to forgiveness, not to forgetting. The truth is that Christians have adopted a process that isn’t found in the Scriptures. What the Lord actually teaches is found in the well-known Matthew 18 passage. That is: Forgive and reconcile. Read more